Attending Couples Therapy Alone or With Your Partner
Individual Couples Therapy
Relationship counselling doesn’t have to involve both people in the relationship. You may just want to talk about how you feel about your relationship or how you feel when you are in a relationship in general. We all bring our personal experiences and history into our closest friendships and it may be enough to explore those concepts confidentially, in a safe environment, on your own. By working through our own personal issues, our relationships can be changed and given an opportunity to flourish.
With Your Partner
Relationships are rarely simple. Each of is unique and we all have our own idiosyncrasies and quirks. When we get together with another wonderfully unique person, it kind of makes sense that things might get complicated. There are times when we encounter problems in communicating our thoughts and feelings in a way that our partner can understand. Couples counselling can help to facilitate and promote communication, understanding and a clearer idea of the next steps for the relationship.
Reasons for Couples Therapy
Non Traditional Relationship
About Couples Therapy
Our closest relationships can be a source of immense pleasure and joy but they can also be the source of much heartache. As humans, we are driven to connect with others and to form intimate bonds of love and friendship. In fact, when people are faced with critical illness, the thing they most desire is to spend time with loved ones.
Maintaining a close bond of love takes effort and consideration but even that isn’t enough sometimes. I know from personal experience that talking to someone who can view the relationship objectively can be a great help in figuring out how to move beyond the current difficulties.
In an ideal world, we would be able to easily resolve our problems and differences and continue on with life – you’ve seen those Hollywood movies where, despite the most terrible troubles, a couple is able to let go of the past and romantically move blissfully forward. This is a realistic outcome but the journey there often takes a lot of dedication and commitment.
Like anything of any value, relationships require attention, effort and time. Unlike other valuables, the return on this investment could be the richest and deepest rewards that a person is likely experience in life.
Getting Started is Easy
Free 15 Min Chat
Sometimes it’s nice to touch base with your counsellor before your first meeting. If you would like to chat on the phone before booking an appointment, simply call, leave a message or email us and we will call you back.
Appointments are available in Cambridge and Huntingdon at various times throughout the week. Click here to make a booking and you will be directed to my physiotherapy clinic booking system. Select ‘Matt Taylor’ and ‘counselling’.
The first appointment gives us all an opportunity to work out whether we might be able to successfully work together. It is also when we establish what it is you want from the therapy – your requirements and aims.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: What kind of problems can counselling help me with?
A: Abuse, anxiety, depression, eating disorders, health issues, major life changes, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), phobias and fears, redundancy and work issues, relationship difficulties, sexuality, trauma, worry.
Q: What happens at the first appointment?
A: The first appointment involves the counsellor asking certain questions about you and your life. This information helps to make an initial assessment of your circumstances and informs the counsellor what approach might be best suited to your needs.
Q: What should I look for in a therapist?
A: Things to make sure about with any counsellor or therapist you visit are:
- that they have recognised academic qualifications
- that they adhere to a professional code of conduct
- that they have regular, ongoing supervision to ensure safe and ethical practice
- that they discuss certain issues with you up front before any commitment is made to the sessions including:
- their counselling approach
- confidentiality issues
- length of sessions
- their responsibilities to you
- your responsibility to them
Q: What does a counsellor do?
A: Listening and understanding are probably the most important things that counsellors do. They assist the clients to identify and clarify the problem areas in their own terms, helping them to decide what they want to do next and, essentially, at a pace that’s right for the client(s).
Q: What can I talk about?
A: Before your first appointment, it may be helpful to prepare by writing down your reasons for seeking help. This may make describing your feelings a little more comfortable. You can talk about anything that’s on your mind, regardless of how small or large you think your problem is. Clients sometimes find themselves saying things they had not expected to say. A good counsellor will always help you explore your circumstances, thoughts and feelings.
Q: What’s the difference between talking to a counsellor and talking to a friend?
A: Talking to friends and family can be really helpful and is often encouraged. There are disadvantages, however, to using friends and family as your only confidants and source of support.
Sometimes, they can feel a conflict of loyalty and may find it hard to keep things confidential. They may get upset by what you tell them, especially if you don’t accept their advice. They may also feel overburdened, especially if they have their own problems too.
Counsellors have formal support and a work structure which helps them to manage difficult or upsetting situations.
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